Wisdom from Confucius

I am reading "Confucius from the Heart: Ancient Wisdom for Today's World" by Yu Dan (tr. Esther Tyldesley). Confucius's "Analects" are both simple, memorable and profound. The Analects are likely to have have been dismissed by the towering philosophical greats of the 19th century. Confucius wrote and spoke for the ordinary people as well as the gentry and the Emperor's court. The essence of Confucianism is 'faithfulness' (being true to yourself), 'forbearance' (consideration for others) and 'benevolence'. By forbearance, Confucius meant you mustn't force people to do things against their will and by benevolence he spoke of "loving people". So how does Confucius suggest that we deal with people who injure us? "You repay an injury with straightness but you repay a good turn with a good turn."
I especially like Confucius's definition of wisdom, which is relational. He says wisdom is "knowing people": it is the understanding of others. This means for me the cultivation of a perception of the other and an understanding of their real person. I think that this level of perception requires a willingness to avoid putting one's own interests at the top of the way in which we relate to others. By making room for others through time and listening, we develop the essence of Confucianist thinking.
In the material realm, Confucius spoke about keeping a strong heart so that you become indifferent to gains and losses. People who care too much about gains and losses were sometimes referred to by Confucius as 'the small man'.